It is no surprise that the narcissist is a pain in the ass and it is rather fitting that a person could get Hemrroids from them.
This post might be too much information but I notice a conversation between some people on one of the forums speaking about migraines etc and thought I would expound on the health issues that they cause and how you might not ass(there’s that would again) ociate it to the narcissist.
After the mask dropped with JC I had a horribly painful experience with pollups on my bowel. I was in excruciating pain and begged him to take me to emergency. As most of you know a narcissist doesn’t know the meaning of the word sympathy, all he knows is that it falls somewhere between shit and syphilis in the dictionary.
After hours of literally rolling on the floor in agony he huffed and puffed and took me to the hospital. It took two shots of Demerol to stop the pain and JC actually cried and apologized for not believing I was in that much pain. Mind you he didn’t stick around and comfort me. They kept me in the hospital for 24 hours and then he picked me up.
After that I ended up having Hemrroids on a regular basis. It isn’t something you generally discuss with people but one day I mentioned it to a trusted close friend. She said, “You know they are because if JC?”
I laughed.
She said, “No I am serious. Haven’t you heard the saying; someone is a pain in the ass? Where do you think that coming from?”
I had never thought about it but it made sense. If a person stresses you out you might tense up and have a “pain in your neck” so it made sense they could cause a “pain in your ass”.
Laugh if you will but I tested this theory over the course of my ten years with JC. We broke up at least every couple of years, when we were living separately I never had Hemrroids; as soon as we got back together and he wasn’t on his best behaviour they came back.
Since I moved out 2 years ago, even though those 2 years have been very stressful I have not been afflicted with Hemrroids. There is only one conclusion you can come to; Narcissists cause Hemrroids!
Now there are other things they cause like migraines, ulcers, hives, anxiety attacks, heart attacks, high blood pressure, drug and alcohol dependency, PTSD, insomnia, and numerous other things.
What kind of health issues did being with a narcissist cause you if any?
Hair loss. Apparently I tend to lose hair when I am stressed, depressed, cry on a daily basis, and feel generally worthless. Who knew? Thanks “J”. Luckily, I had tons of hair to begin with, but it is thinner than it used to be. I am still losing it by the handful, so hopefully with time that will stop.
I was never really sick in front of him. Actually, there were times I was sick, but I didn’t make a big deal out of it. Lord knows I didn’t want an excuse for him to tell me to stay home while he went out into the neighborhood to “work out”. I knew he took every chance he could to betray me. He couldn’t wait for any excuse to be alone (turns out not alone at all) in the neighborhood. Mind you, he was always sick. Migraines constantly and a horrible ass when he got them. Conveniently enough, they seemed to often occur on days that were important to me (ie: valentine’s day, my birthday…generally any day he knew meant something) and used it as an excuse to check out. Naturally, I treated him like a king and did everything I could to make him feel better. Stupid, stupid me.
Gee, I wonder why I lost all that hair?
Anxiety, PTSD (panic attacks, nightmares), insomnia. Awful.
i got severe anxiety attacks still get them 1yr plus of no contact. i am on medications but just thinking of the things he did in 24 yrs of hell but it is getting better as time passes good luck to anyone who has been hurt by these evil people
Thank you for the laugh this morning. This post was great and it made my day.
Ivonne
migranes and a big pain in the ass 24/7
Love this article! My problems started about 5 years into our relationship. We had 2 children by then. I had what everyone thought was a nervous breakdown. Severe aches and pains, extreme fatigue, insomnia, and the worst anxiety and panic attacks ever! All of this would come and go (mostly it was with me) for the next 23 years. He would always tell me I was depressed. I of course believed him. I really thought I was lucky that he loved me enough to put up with me! One day two years ago I woke up and told him out of the blue I thought I was an abused woman! I cant even remember why I said that! I just knew it to my core! He laughed at me and promptly found someone else! My awesome son had been begging me to kick him out and I finally did! Even though I went through an awful depression my body has never been better! All of the above symptoms have vanished! As for the hemorrhoid…… I mean hemorrhoids….GONE!!!!! LOL
i must comment on this.migraines and popping tranquilizers to “cope” since i have been away no migraines and no more daily popping of tranquilizers or antidepressants.also i had bowel problems, i would even say it was probably a mild form of irritable bowel syndrome .i honestly believe had i stayed i would have developed high blood pressure ( it was on the rise) and god knows what else.
“id rather be alone than in bad company”
thanks for putting this out there because it helps bring us back to reality when our mind plays tricks on us and we remember the “good ” FAKE times.
I suffered for thirty years in a relationship where I was not valued as a human being. I was abused verbally, emotionally, mentally, and physically, as well as having my personal property destroyed by him in his rants. He was a serial cheater – slept with anyone/anything that gave him the time of day. He was irresponsible – lived off me for the last ten years of our marriage and never offered a dime on the mortgage or any other household expense. During the last few years of our “marriage,” he blamed me for everything that went wrong in his life and in the adult children’s lives that he fathered before we met.
I was abused in every sense of the word and mistreated for so long until I had lost a sense of who I was. I, too, suffered from insomnia and extreme hair loss and was too blind to attribute it to the way I was being treated. I finally realized that I deserve better and filed for divorce in 2010. It was finalized in July, 2011. I have not seen or talked to him since 2010. I am alone – sometimes lonely – but I am a happier person. I am working on myself and pray that I will regain the courage and self-confidence that I had before being belittled and disrespected for so many years. Please pray for me.
Since there is another blogger with the same name as me, “Dee,” to avoid confusion, my future correspondence will be in the name of
“Dee-Dee.”
(I posted my original comment on yesterday, January 11, 2013)
Oh Carrie!!!! Such a sense of humour from such a horror situ!!
Love it how you said where narcissist is in the dictionary!
You’re awesome, Carrie. I love your strength, which is expressed in your humour.
Hope you are well and doing great.
I’ve had several N’s in my life including my mom, a couple of BF’s and a couple of co-workers. With the older co-worker (not a romantic relationship…he was just a control freak and seeked recognition from everyone and was competitive with me at work…tried to make me look bad, etc.)…I had blood in my stool (I know ..TMI) and had to get a colonoscopy. It turned out to be….hemorrhoids! Also had panic attacks and had to go on anti anxiety meds. Aren’t N’s fun?! Thank goodness he retired and guess what??? All symptons gone and I’m no longer having to take meds. My therepist said it was “situational anxiety and depression” Once the situation was changed….I (my body and it’s response to the situation) calmed down and changed.
With the younger co-worker…he flirted relentlessly and was at the beginning very sweet and complimentary. Then he met his primary NS and became mean and critical towards me. I still don’t understand why they do this??? I’ve read other stories about how N ‘s do this to female’s. I became depressed (not as bad as with first co-worker) and cry more than usual when thinking of him (or how he used to be). Wish I’d never met either of those two N’s…but both are no longer working with me (older one retired,young one working someplace else!) Thank you Lord! I’m NC with both and that helps….
But I still have issues with trust and the not understanding bothers me. I guess I should not worry about the why’s….it’s just who they are.
One more physical thing that happend to me with the younger N….lost 10 lbs when the D&D started. I used to not be able to eat lunch in the same room with him due to my stomach being upset….He’s gone and I’ve gained 5 lb’s back!
I got sores on my scalp for the three years we were in contact. When I went “no contact” they disappeared.
…Oh yah, and I lost 30 pounds. Ended up weighing less than 100 lbs. I gained some back after I went “no contact.”
For over 25 years I have been married to a N. four wonderful beautiful children are the best thing to come out of this marriage. My abuse has been emotional solely. Almost imperceptible at times like a steady dripping on the forehead. I have suffered from depression, constipation , migraines, weight gain and self doubt. Was determined not to be dependent on drugs and alcohol to get through this. I learned to put it in God’s hands and am finally at peace with it all. My N finally asked for a divorce last night after trying to smoke me out for over 2 years. It’s odd but I just keep smiling because I know that God has my back. My main concern, is for my children and their pain. But I know that I could not go on and be unhealthy any longer. I literally cried ot to God for a way out and he is making a way. Thanks to all for sharing your journey. God Bless you all! We will get through this!